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Teens often feel a sense of guilt when their parents split up, as though they are somehow responsible for what has happened.
But parents split up because of problems in their relationship — not because of their kids. It's not your fault!
Q & A
When two people have been living together and they decide not to live together anymore, they are separated. However, when married people separate, their marriage has not yet ended. They have to get a divorce to legally end a marriage. Common-law couples don't have to get a divorce, because there is no marriage to end.
You are not the reason for your parents splitting up. Parents split up because of problems in their relationship.
No, you don't. You have the right to love and be loved by both parents.
If you are feeling pressured to take sides, and you feel you are caught in the middle of your parents' problems, tell them.
If there are things you need to know, ask. You have a right to ask questions about what is going to happen and why.
Most parents split up only after trying very hard to save their relationship. Some teens hope and believe that if they try to be on their very best behaviour, their parents will get back together.
However, this plan isn't likely to work, since their parents' decision to split up had nothing to do with them. Their decision to separate or divorce is usually final.
Families Change
Separation and divorce have a profound impact on all family members. Loss of security is often coupled with intense feelings of grief. The stress can be overwhelming for kids, teens and parents.
This website can help.
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