Children may ask questions that are difficult to answer throughout or even months or years after the separation or divorce. Do not avoid a question or give your child a misleading answer. If they have the courage to ask, try to find the courage to answer. If you don't have an answer for them, be honest about it – say you don't know, or haven't made a decision yet.

See Responding to children's questions for more information on how to answer children's questions about the separation or divorce.

In the Speak Up! sections of both the Kids Guide and Teen Guide, children are encouraged to speak up, talk about their feelings, ask parents questions, and let their parents know when something concerns them.

If you are concerned that your child has become increasingly withdrawn and is not willing to communicate with you since learning about the separation or divorce, talk to your family doctor.