Much of the change associated with divorce and separation centres on new living arrangements. If you will be moving, it is helpful to share as much as you can with your children as the details of the new living arrangements become clear.

If the new home requires a change of schools, explore ways that you can delay the change until the beginning of a new school year when the transition is easier. Children are adaptable though, and even if they must change schools immediately, they will adjust. You can help them become familiar ahead of time with new bus or walking routes. Younger children might be reassured by visiting the school playground on an evening or weekend. Most schools have web sites with photographs and other information that will help you and your children prepare.

Sometimes children will have two homes, living part of their time with each parent. In this case, take care to ensure that your children feel at home in both places. If finances permit, your children should have essentials such as toothbrushes and other grooming items available in both homes. Living out of a suitcase suggests that they are visiting, rather than spending time in a second home. Having your child talk to the other parent every day is a good routine.

Sometimes, your children will spend more time with one parent than the other. In this case, they will almost certainly miss the absent parent. Children need a loving relationship with both parents. You can reassure your children that both of you love them now and forever with phone calls, letters, cards, photographs and emails. One of the most loving things you can do for your children is to support their relationship with the other parent.